Friendship.

I somehow cannot get it when people say "true friends will always be there for you," etc etc etc. and all the other cheesy friendship quotes.
I mean, whaat?

*okay this post doesn't apply to everyone & i'm not referring to anyone in particular*

Some think that TRUE friends are friends who would

• always be there for you
• you can always depend on them
  
• you guys love every bit of each other wholeheartedly
• etc.

do those things sound ridiculous to you?
cheesy?
yes? no? maybe?

but think about it, that's what most people think TRUE friends are like/meant to be
even if they don't say it out loud or even think about it. because somewhere in their mind, they subconsciously have that thought.
it's probably the influence of movies watched in their lifetime.

true friends are perfect, true friends are flawless, they're always there for you, you can always depend on them.

WRONGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG.


friends have flaws, friends make mistakes.
so what?
YOU DO TOO.

infact, i'll say that I DO TOO.
do i sound less hypocritical now?

here's some friendship quotes:

"true friends will always be there for you"

"you know who your true friends are when they stand by you through everything"

"sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out but see who cares enough to break them down"

etc.

(you can find lots of them in fb, twitter or tumblr -.-)

i'm not saying that those quotes are 100% crap.
they're not.
in a way, they are true, but some people take it so literally that they start eliminating their friends one by one because they got offended by something their friend did, or maybe even unintentionally did.

example 1:
someone says, "are you okay?" you reply "yup" even though you're not, and that person believes you.

see, that's when someone UNINTENTIONALLY offends you because they didn't try to cheer you up.
and don't you dare say to me that they're supposed to know cos
well if they don't do anything to cheer you up, obviously they DON'T KNOW.
stop being petty & hoping that the person would be able to read your mind & feelings & know that you're not okay.

people expect too much. they expect who they think their true friends are to be like 7-11, always open and always there. Then, when their friends make mistake, they angrily throw that friend away & start emo-ing, crying, and continuously post tweets about betrayal & fake friendsthip -.-

to those who think that true friends will ALWAYS be there for you,
THINK AGAIN.
in my opinion, START THINKING DIFFERENTLY.

your friend is NOT always going to be there for you, your friend is going to DISAPPOINT you at times, your friend isn't PERFECT.

like marriage, friendship isn't easy. infact, it's no easier than marriage. okay i know i'm not married, but whatever, you see where im going?

love takes effort, no matter how much you love someone, you still need to try hard.

example 2
okay im gonna talk about my friend & i don't wanna say who this friend is so let's call her Mary.

I love Mary to the max. Even so, we quarrel very often because we both always insist that we're right. also, her moodswings are like mine (or maybe even worse).
Aside from those flaws of our friendship, i still love her enough to ignore those things or let them go.
why lose a friend just because of a few things that annoy you?

also, if someone isn't talking to you
or you're angry because someone who you call your "good friend" or "best friend" doesn't crack up a conversation with you, stop being angryyyyyyyyyyyyyy.
don't wait for them to talk to you
YOU have to talk to them
think about it, if you don't make the effort to talk to them, why should they do the same for you?
maybe that person is ignorantly waiting your for you to start the conversation first as well -.-

example 3
in 2010 when i came to Aus, i was angry at lots of my friends. i felt forgotten, and that no one cared for me.
*shivers* thinking about that makes me feel so ashamed now. firstly, how could they even contact me? i shouldn't expect them to text/call me, it's bloody expensive. some may not have even gotten my email/number.
i always felt like i wasn't included anymore, i felt isolated.
okay we all know that's stupiddddddddddddddd.
i was catastrophizing (i don't think that's a word but whatever), silly me.
it's not like i should expect their lives to stop just because mine wasn't going the way i wanted it to.

ha-ha, dear 14 year old J-Mee, 15 year old J-Mee is laughing at you now even though 16 year old J-Mee is probably gonna laugh at 15 year old J-Mee next time.

anyway, to sum up my whole post. what im trying to say is.

true friendship isn't something easy to maintain, it isn't something that's easy to obtain as well, so don't let it slip out of your grasp.

i've actually had this post planned out in my head for a long time already. but somehow i couldn't get the words out the way i planned. i'm still quite unsatisfied with this post because it's not exactly the way i wanted it to be, but i hope that it's good enough for you guys to understand what i'm talking about.

anyway, sorry if anyone gets offended by this post. or say that im a hypocrite.
i know i'm one anyway

tralalalalala

maybe my life was better off without blogging

okay i'm starting to ramble. shitess

BYEEEE.

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